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But, when things aren\u2019t as cut and dry \u2014 and, with Ocean, they\u2019re definitely not \u2014 there seems to be more questions about appropriate labels \u2014 and the appropriateness of even having a label \u2014 than answers.\n\nIf the presence of male-on-male sex is your way of measuring whether a man is gay, how would you describe a man who claimed to have fallen in love with another man if they never actually had sex with each other? What if this man was the only man he felt this way about? Basically, what if he wasn\u2019t into men at all but just one particular man? What if he was a teenager when this all happened?\n","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2021-11-22","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2021-11-22","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"WhatsInANameNavigatingLifeWithAPseudo","date_creation_fiche":"2024-11-22 17:26:16","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2024-11-22 17:26:16","user":"185.107.162.250","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222021-11-22\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222021-11-22\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022WhatsInANameNavigatingLifeWithAPseudo\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222024-11-22 17:26:16\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222024-11-22 17:26:16\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?WhatsInANameNavigatingLifeWithAPseudo"},"TheSolutionToLongDistanceRelationships":{"bf_titre":"The Solution To Long-Distance Relationships","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/49yWLYK How Pocket-Dialing Can C*ckblock You]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4g8Sg9R Attack of The Killer Ex]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3ORrrL8 How To Deal With A Psycho Ex During The Holidays]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DfapnV Attention Mongers Crybabies and Dramaheads]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DadqpB 25 Signals You\u0027re Not Ready For a Online Dating]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4gcYLIz 5 Skills Every Man And Woman Should Master]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/49z3q5i Can Sex Be A Laughing Matter?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4gbh8xB The Sh*t Women Say That Piss Off Men]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/49BHSF9 Dating a Jersey Shore Fan]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4gaO7lT Dealing With Exes on Valentine\u2019s Day]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3OXBtdG A Decent Girl For a Nice Guy]]\n\nFor those who are caught in a long distance relationship, you\u2019ll know how hard it can be to make it work. Jealousy issues aside, the lack of regular sex is often one of the main deal breakers for most couples who decide to online date from a distance. However, one company has come up with a solution that is not only tech savvy, but also nothing short of brilliant.\n\n\n\nIntroducing the \u2018Zoon +\u2019, a vibrator that uses the power of the internet in order to connect couples who find themselves too far apart to get personal. The product works by allowing its users to control their devices through the companies website. They can then connect the included wireless remote control to their computers via USB while the other operates the device through the I-Zoon.com interface. In it, you can turn the vibrator on and off as well as chose from any of their five speeds.\n\nHaving just passed the FCC requirements for safety, the Zoon can serve as an excellent way to make ends meet for couples in long-distance relationships, or even as way to get by when your spouse goes away on a business trip. Shaped like a giant sperm, the Zoon is made of 100% silicone, which provides a skin-like feel to the touch. It also comes equipped with an LED light which indicates that the product is working, or about to.\n\nSelling for a whopping 180 Euro, this sex toy is far from mediocre. For those looking to make their long-distance relationships work and enjoy a little luxury product every now and then, I suggest giving the \u2018Zoon +\u2019 a try. And for those who remain single, at least you\u2019ll be able to make good use of its remote control without worrying about having to start and stop. You don\u2019t even need to use your hands.","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2021-12-13","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2021-12-13","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"TheSolutionToLongDistanceRelationships","date_creation_fiche":"2024-12-13 10:54:21","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2024-12-13 10:54:21","user":"2405:9800:b540:afb4:d12f:48a8:b107:e9f4","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222021-12-13\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222021-12-13\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022TheSolutionToLongDistanceRelationships\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222024-12-13 10:54:21\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222024-12-13 10:54:21\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?TheSolutionToLongDistanceRelationships"},"CoWorkingOuCoolOeuvre15":{"bf_titre":"Co-working (ou cool oeuvre)","bf_description":"","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2025-04-17T10:00:00+02:00","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2025-04-17T12:00:00+02:00","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"CoWorkingOuCoolOeuvre15","date_creation_fiche":"2024-12-13 19:52:09","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2024-12-13 19:52:09","user":"Helene","owner":"Helene","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222025-04-17T10:00:00+02:00\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222025-04-17T12:00:00+02:00\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022CoWorkingOuCoolOeuvre15\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222024-12-13 19:52:09\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222024-12-13 19:52:09\u0022 data-owner=\u0022Helene\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?CoWorkingOuCoolOeuvre15"},"EcritureDesStatutsCooperative":{"bf_titre":"Ecriture des statuts coop\u00e9rative","bf_description":"visio","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2024-12-17T09:30:00+01:00","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2024-12-17T10:30:00+01:00","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"EcritureDesStatutsCooperative","date_creation_fiche":"2024-12-13 22:16:26","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2024-12-13 22:16:26","user":"2001:861:204:76d0:746a:3b18:dde2:71d9","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222024-12-17T09:30:00+01:00\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222024-12-17T10:30:00+01:00\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022EcritureDesStatutsCooperative\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222024-12-13 22:16:26\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222024-12-13 22:16:26\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?EcritureDesStatutsCooperative"},"CreatingALoveLifeThatAlignsWithYourPers":{"bf_titre":"Creating a Love Life That Aligns with Your Personal Values","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3OVfuEg The 5 Warning Signs Of A Bad Relationship]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41s1rh6 Stop Comparing Us To Aidan From Sex And The City!]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3OTcqc0 The Truth About Women\u2019s Dating Blogs]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Bt7eZ4 Is Bradley Cooper The Male Carrie Bradshaw?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41yTIOs My Low-Maintenance Dream Girl Wishlist]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3OR4MyG The Little Things Women Do That Turn Men On]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41wpnju Being A Bitch Can Save Your Love Life]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3OVzA1k Why Your Dating Standards Start with You]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3ZQKXOp The Backlash of Fornication for Single Christians]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41u4JQP Learn to Trust God\u2019s Warnings in Relationships]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3BrYbaQ 10 Qualities Saved Sisters Seek in a Man]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41DnZLP Overcoming Dating Angst as a Christian]]\n\nO\u2019Toole ended up as the arrogant, petulant, debauched Henry in a great performance that stood as a poke in the eye to typecasting. Watch O\u2019Toole\u2019s mild, kindly schoolmaster in \u201cGoodbye, Mr. Chips\u201d (1969), and then his megalomaniacal chessmaster of a director in \u201cThe Stunt Man.\u201d Check out his sadistic Nazi in \u201cThe Night of the Generals\u201d (1967) back-to-back with his diffident, soft-spoken tutor in \u201cThe Last Emperor\u201d (1987). Then watch O\u201dToole metamorphose from Jesus Christ into Jack the Ripper over the run of \u201cThe Ruling Class\u201d (1972). Tell me when you\u2019re done that Peter O\u2019Toole wasn\u2019t a versatile actor.\n\nAnother criticism of O\u2019Toole is not so easy to rebut: that his long and eventful career contained a strong note of unfulfilled promise. Outside of his eight Oscar-nominated performances, the good pickings are indeed few and far between. He spent most of the \u201970s paying the physical price for his previous drunken carousing, and his final Oscar nomination for \u201cVenus\u201d (2006) came after a quarter century in which he had achieved little of distinction as a movie actor. That undistinguished period ironically began with O\u2019Toole\u2019s triumph in \u201cMy Favorite Year.\u201d Although O\u2019Toole\u2019s portrayal of a disappointed, alcoholic has-been who roars \u201cI\u2019m not an actor, I\u2019m a movie star!\u201d was almost universally praised, it was suspected just as unanimously of being autobiographical.\n\nO\u2019Toole\u2019s career began on the stage, where at the Bristol Old Vic in the late \u201950s he made his first significant splash as a Hamlet apparently not to be forgotten. But when, after achieving international superstardom, he played the Melancholy Dane in a London production directed by Laurence Olivier, his performance was judged to be unremarkable. His 1980 Macbeth is still remembered today as one of the great disasters of modern British theatre. His Professor Henry Higgins in a 1980s revival of \u201cPygmalion\u201d did well enough in London, but when the production transferred to New York, O\u2019Toole\u2019s one and only Broadway outing did not generally impress (although a 13-year-old named Jake Riordan liked it). Probably O\u2019Toole\u2019s greatest success as a stage actor was in two runs of the play \u201cJeffrey Bernard is Unwell,\u201d in which he played a boozy, dissipated newspaper columnist. Again, there were whispers of autobiography and self-parody.\n","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-12-17","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-12-17","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"CreatingALoveLifeThatAlignsWithYourPers","date_creation_fiche":"2024-12-17 10:27:58","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2024-12-17 10:27:58","user":"2405:9800:b540:afb4:a48b:903d:dbdd:c3de","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-12-17\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-12-17\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022CreatingALoveLifeThatAlignsWithYourPers\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222024-12-17 10:27:58\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222024-12-17 10:27:58\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?CreatingALoveLifeThatAlignsWithYourPers"},"DatingInTheModernAgeBalancingExpectation":{"bf_titre":"Dating in the Modern Age: Balancing Expectations and Realities","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DyCtCX Questioning Dating Perferences]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4a0qKcm Jaded About Dating]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/49ZPRfm Endless Evidence Gathering]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/49W3HiX Snooping on a Partner]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4a6mcRS Interracial Dating And Relationships]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DCWdFv Why Do You Want to Be in a Relationship?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3BNvt4w Being Really Smart Can Work Against A Woman]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/49YqEBT Flexibility in Modern Relationships]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DDjFlQ \u0022Till Death Do Us Part\u0022]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4a0bE6H Assembly Line of Hot]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4a1kfWz The Art of Selective Truths in Dating]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4gASzdA Warning Signs on the First Date]]\n\nScroll through a thousand online dating posts, ask a couple dozen friends, go on a dozen dates, and you\u0027ll find that most of us are, either consciously or unconsciously, looking for fireworks. Hot chemistry. That mad attraction that we can\u0027t soak enough of up.\nAnd when we meet someone that doesn\u0027t, for whatever reason, elicit it from us, many of us will move on. Fast. Even if the person otherwise might be a great partner.\nSo, what gives?\nIn my own experience, the relationships that started with hot, passionate chemistry died a quick death. The fire brought us together, but once it cooled a bit, we really weren\u0027t a good match for each other. Some psychologists argue that such passionate, fire-filled beginnings often are coming from matching wounds from the past. That the coming together isn\u0027t about love and longevity, but more about co-habiting dysfunctions hoping to heal each other. Most of the spiritual teachings I study also caution against believing the stories we have around desire, precisely because they are designed to get us to go out and pursue whatever it is that is desired.\nRelated to this is another set of issues. People want it All to happen Now. Many of us don\u0027t want to \u0022waste time,\u0022 and find out later that someone \u0022wasn\u0027t right.\u0022 But how can you know, if you don\u0027t actually take some time to get to know someone? An hour and a half over coffee or dinner isn\u0027t enough to get to know anyone, but you\u0027d be hard pressed to find a roomful of singles who don\u0027t believe that these days. Furthermore, in addition to being impatient, many of us fail to register more subtle passions for another because we\u0027re too busy looking for, or \u0022trying to will,\u0022 something that will burn a city block down when\/if it comes.\nI also think there\u0027s another issue here. Addiction. The U.S. is truly a society of addicts. There are high level addicts who destroy their lives and the lives of others. Some make it into therapy and\/or recovery groups, while others never make it. However, beyond these folks, I\u0027d argue that a large percentage of us \u0022normal functioning\u0022 folks are actually low level addicts. Some absolutely \u0022need\u0022 those two or three cups of coffee every morning. Others are miserable if they don\u0027t get their video game fix, or miss their favorite TV show. And still others are addicted to \u0022love,\u0022 which is actually lust. They chase the high, and then burned, again and again.\nAre you one of these people?\nIf you feel swamped by all the opinions coming at you. If you feel stuck in patterns that don\u0027t serve you, or any relationship you are in. If you are afraid to take risks anymore because of the countless hurts you\u0027ve experienced in the past.\n","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2023-01-02","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2023-01-02","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"DatingInTheModernAgeBalancingExpectation","date_creation_fiche":"2025-01-02 11:33:50","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-01-02 11:33:50","user":"2405:9800:b540:afb4:ac94:988f:5561:33b2","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222023-01-02\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222023-01-02\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022DatingInTheModernAgeBalancingExpectation\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-01-02 11:33:50\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-01-02 11:33:50\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?DatingInTheModernAgeBalancingExpectation"},"TheTestDriveTheory":{"bf_titre":" The Test Drive Theory","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4a8WpIB An Ode to Emily]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3PqnoFX More Than Meets The Eyes]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/40ohyLQ Should I Tell Her How I Feel?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4aeydEU The Play Date]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4a9vj3X Dogs, Cats, and the Art of Dating: Lessons from the Cab Ride]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4aofffb The Colorado Connection That Could Never Be]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3PqnoWt When Love Feels Like a DIY Project: The Fixer-Upper Dilemma]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DG5ug2 Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4a5OThE Should You Settle?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4a3xgPz Is There Hope For The Gender Gap?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Poz1x5 Cheating is a Cop Out]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4a5TuQU The Dance of Second Chances]]\n\nLet\u2019s say you are in the market for a new car. You dumped your old one and would really like a new one now. What do you do?\n\nFirst, you take inventory of what attributes you need and want out of a car. You know you need the basics: safety and reliability. Ideally, you\u2019d love a sporty or luxury car, but with gas prices costing an arm, a leg, a thigh, and a few internal organs, you know you\u2019re better off with a fuel-efficient one.\n\nYou go through this thought process with all of the attributes. Car or truck? Coupe or sedan? Base or enhanced trim? Small, mid-sized, or large? Color-wise, you\u2019d really like a silver one. But you\u2019re fine with blue or white too, even though everyone tells you white is high-maintenance because it gets dirty so easily.\n\nNow that you\u2019ve got a particular car in mind, your next step is to look through some classified ads. You may also ask your friends if they know of anyone selling a car too. This search can traverse both print and online. It takes time, but you want to make sure it\u2019s a sound car.\n\nAfter you\u2019ve selected a few you\u2019d like to try, it\u2019s time for a test drive. You give the car a cursory check, then take it for a nice cruise. To be thorough, you drive on both city streets and highways. You take note of all the little nuances and potential problems you see. What\u2019s that whirring sound? Why did it take so long to start up? Is the car pulling slightly to the left?\n\nSome of your friends fall in love with the first car they test drive. Not you. You\u2019re a little more cautious. You\u2019ve purchased lemons before, cars that seemed great on the surface, but were rife with problems once you got home. Since a car is such a big ticket item, this is not something you want to rush. So you test drive countless cars before making a decision.\n\nSounds a little like dating, no?\n\nOkay, it\u2019s not an exact match, since cars only last several years or decades and a significant other could be with you for a lifetime. But the process of dating is sure similar. First, you identify what you want out of a date. Then you start looking, either in bars \u0026amp; clubs or on online dating sites. Then you go on a few dates - the test drives - with the hopes that you\u2019ll find the car of your dreams.\n\nJust a theory I\u2019ve had racing in my head (no pun intended). What do you think? 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Of course.\n\nNot in support of the author\u2019s personal experience (even though that\u2019s what the piece was about). Nor in acknowledgment of how far-reaching that PTSD is, and how many people are probably walking around with it post-earthquake, or assault, or stint in the US Army. Nor discussing how sexual assault is still so damn rampant in all parts of the world, and what are we doing to change that.\n\nOf course.\n\nInstead, a bunch of female \u2013 yes, female \u2013 journalists wrote into Jezebel about their disdain for the horrible way that McClelland portrayed Haiti; like it was hell on earth. Like all she did with her essay was provide soil to the minions fervently planting their master\u2019s ideas about this \u201cbackward\u201d place.\n\nNot only did they completely miss the point, in my opinion, but they changed the conversation about what it should be about \u2013 PTSD and sexual violence \u2013 and put a lens on it that most moderately intelligent people (and seriously, most people reading GOOD are going to be) weren\u2019t originally peering through.\n\nThank God Roxane Gay at The Rumpus got it, and explained it much better than I can. Go read her piece, Still with the Scarlet Letters, but only after you read the Jezebel piece.\n\nAnd let us know what you think.","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-01-10","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-01-10","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"IsItReallyAboutHaitiOrIsItAboutPtsdA","date_creation_fiche":"2025-01-10 10:27:28","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-01-10 10:27:28","user":"2405:9800:b540:afb4:28fb:3383:ae4d:bc3","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-01-10\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-01-10\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022IsItReallyAboutHaitiOrIsItAboutPtsdA\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-01-10 10:27:28\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-01-10 10:27:28\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?IsItReallyAboutHaitiOrIsItAboutPtsdA"},"ChoiceS":{"bf_titre":"Choices","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/409zNDg A Relationship Evolved (and Happy Birthday To My Ex)]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/40bPOst The Unforgettable First Kiss]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3PAH1LA Jealousy Versus Envy]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3WiZNuP Love Addict: The Pregnancy Dilemma]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/40ivhCi How Do You Help Someone Who Doesn\u2019t Want Help?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DX2xHZ Most Radical Relationship Books On the Market]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/40esfPF We Hold Ourselves Back]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/40ivdCy What Happens When You Actually In Relationship??]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/407JTV2 Is a Same-Sex Encounter Important in Living Holistically?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3PDYJ0E You\u2019re a Selfish Bitch and That\u2019s Why You\u2019re Not Married]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/40bPOIZ Learning How to Love Yourself]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Cb2Det Love Addict: Writing the Personal]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3PBlPFw How Do You Learn to Let Go?]]\n\nReally, it all comes down to just a wedding.\n\nTwo paths wind in front of me. The first one: leave North Carolina at the end of March in order to spend the spring in Brooklyn. I\u2019ve always wanted to live in NYC, and while the hectic pace of living there long term no longer fits in with my self-image at 32, I\u2019m still drawn to experiencing the beat and pulse for a short time. Inspiration lurks around every corner in the city, and I still hold some small remnants of 20-something adrenaline-junkie Christine.\n\nAfter New York, who knows? Santa Fe is somewhere I had thought about living before I came to North Carolina, and seems like a sweet summer spot. Then maybe Portland, or Europe. I wanna live in Europe. Why not now?\n\nThe other: go to a wedding in Hawaii in May. Not just a wedding. One of my best friends, someone I lived with in San Francisco, bumped around with in New York and London, with whom I shared much laughter and exchanged seriously annoyed glances over our adventure guide in Tasmania, is getting married. I don\u2019t want to miss it for anything, really.\n\nFlights to Oahu from the East Coast don\u2019t come cheap (in fact, they come ridiculously expensive), and if I go, I\u2019m staying more than a few days. This essentially keeps me in North Carolina indefinitely. It settles me into Black Mountain, Asheville, community, dance.\n\nMore than anything else, it asks of me if I am ready for real relationship.\n\nThe boy tells me the other day that when he was at home for the holidays, answering briefly that I was leaving in April after people asked if he was seeing anybody, his friend Paul said, \u201cMan, she\u2019s not going anywhere.\u201d The boy replied, \u201cYeah, you don\u2019t know her. She\u2019s going.\u201d\n\n\u201cNah, she\u2019s not.\u201d\n\nI\u2019m glad someone I don\u2019t know has more certainty about my life than me.\n\nThe wedding is the obvious catalyst, but the relationship is the real issue at hand. We\u2019ve talked about him coming along, but I can\u2019t seem to commit to him coming along. Even though we spend almost everyday together now, I\u2019m not sure what things will look like come May.\n\nEven more frightening, I\u2019m not sure if staying here locks me into becoming an \u201cus\u201d.\n\nHave you felt forced to make a stay-or-go decision in a relationship? If so, how did you handle it?","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2021-01-16","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2021-01-16","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"ChoiceS","date_creation_fiche":"2025-01-16 10:42:08","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-01-16 10:42:08","user":"2405:9800:b540:afb4:5c28:2801:6b20:4a14","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222021-01-16\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222021-01-16\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022ChoiceS\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-01-16 10:42:08\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-01-16 10:42:08\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?ChoiceS"},"MostAwkwardNightEver":{"bf_titre":"Most Awkward Night Ever","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/42AdWYF Can You Date A Younger Man?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/40MAkMZ The Qualities Of A Good Make Out Buddy]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/40NwR0D When Guys Should Pay On A Date And Why]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/42um78v Playing Games When Dating]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4hb1WRN How to Hit on Someone via Facebook]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4hw6Ok3 What Not To Say On A First Date?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/40Mg2Dc Why Hasn\u0027t He Called and What Should I Do About It?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/40NwROb Getting Prepped for a First Date]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4hrE6ki Defriending Your Ex On Facebook]]\n\nIt is possible there have been other awkward nights in the history of the world, but I am fairly certain that none have been THIS awkward. Please, allow me to elaborate and then you tell me if this wins the most awkward night ever award.\n\n\nSo this afternoon I get a text from Mr. Cute but Whiny\u2019s friend asking me what I was up to for the evening. I find this strange because after he kissed me and asked me to lunch, I never heard from him again. I\u2019ve been assuming that Mr. Cute but Whiny made him feel bad for hanging out with me because the friend stopped calling me right as the ex began trying to weasel his way back in. Anyway, we text back and forth and he informs me that he and my ex are going to the same bar my friends and I always go to. We figure, whatever, let\u2019s still go.\n\nSo we arrive at the bar and Mr. Cute but Whiny goes, \u201cOh you must be here because you saw my foursquare check in!\u201d Uh no. Self-centered much? I tell him I am here because his friend texted me and invited me. Awkward, but at least it shut him up for a minute.\n\nAnywho, I am trying to talk to\/flirt with the friend (but just for fun, as I am still a little peeved that he went so MIA) and as I am teasing him about the last time we hung out the ex goes, \u201cOh you mean the time you guys made out? Yea, he told me.\u201d Um what! Awkward. Way to kiss and tell, friend. And way to call me out on it, ex. I turn bright red and quickly excuse myself.\n\nUpon my return, the ex corners me and wants to talk about our friendship. Awkward. By this point, my friends have left me, and rightly so, as this is just too much drama. The conversation goes like this. Him: But I really want to be friends. Me: But I don\u2019t. And back and forth for like 30 mins until I get interrupted by a text from another friend. She informs me that Mr. Not Quite Right is at a bar with her just a few feet away and that he looks like shit and that I should come meet them. My heart stops. This is the same Mr. Not Quite Right that I haven\u2019t seen in almost a year. The one who I have zero contact with since he blocked me on FB. The one I have been dying to see and unsure of whether i would punch him or hug him. So I tell Mr. Cute but Whiny,\u201d Ok, you want to be my friend? Then come to Bubs with me.\u201d I explain the situation (he knows all about Mr. Not Quite Right) and so he says yes, we\u2019ll go. Awkward, but useful.\n\nSo Mr. Cute but Whiny (aka Mr. CBW) agrees to play arm candy and we go up to the group where The Ex is. Mr. Not Quite Right doesn\u2019t say anything at first as all of his friends are giving me hugs, and saying hi to Mr, CBW, whom most of them have met. The Ex is just staring at him (I am sure thinking who the eff is this guy??).\n\nSide bar: I don\u2019t think it is possible for two guys to look more different than these two. Picture this \u2013 Mr. CBW is preppy as per usj: wearing an argyle sweater and a pea coat and has super dark hair, and scruff. The Ex is much more casual \u2013 blonde, wearing flannel, jeans and a hat. AND he really needs a hair cut.\n\nBut I digress. So I say hi to The Ex and do the obligatory hug, and then introduce Mr. CBW. For as much as I hate him sometimes, homeboy played the part so well. He acted super cool, nice and friendly. Mission accomplished, Mr. CBW and I exit to go get a drink.\n\n10 seconds later I decide to go back and talk to The Ex. I mean, hey, it has been a year and I have a lot to say. He is totally putting up walls at first but I break them down with my teasing and by telling him I fell on my butt during my kickball game that night. That he enjoys. After a bit of talking he asks if we can be friends (I\u2019ve heard this before, sir) and so I respond, SURE if you un-block me on Facebook. We start to go down the whole, \u201cwell you did this and I did this awkward road,\u201d but then I stop it. I realize, honestly, I just want to talk to him. So we end up talking for a little over an hour, just about everything. It was so wonderful and not at all awkward. Until\u2026\n\nUntil, The Ex\u2019s best friend comes up, interrupts us and goes, \u201cYou know I asked Cali out right? Like on a date?\u201d (This is true and I turned him down). Of course, this gets The Ex riled up and he\u2019s all upset at his bestie, \u201cWhy would you do that? You know we dated. That\u2019s so not cool\u2026\u201d yada yada yada. I try and diffuse the situation but Mr. Not Quite Right has always been a jealous guy and it was getting awkward, fast. Then his bestie starts talking about how much he hates The Ex\u2019s current girlfriend (so awkward for me but not a surprise. Every single one of his friends has told me how much they love and miss me) and I can see Mr. NQR just trying to keep his cool. His bestie keeps flaming the fire and at one point asks me to go home with him. Note, I have zero desire to do so, but apparently no one cares about what I want, and so then it turns into this whole big fight between them. Eventually they get so heated they leave and I take my super awkward self home.\n\nSo, what are my takeaways from this evening, you ask?\n\nA. Hanging out with two exs in one night is hard. Especially if they are in the same place. Butttt also a little fun if one will play along.\n\nB. Stay away from your ex\u2019s friends. They cause drama and awkwardness. You + Ex\u2019s friend = Bad things.\n\nLesson learned. So what do you think? Awkward night or what?","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2021-01-30","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2021-01-30","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"MostAwkwardNightEver","date_creation_fiche":"2025-01-30 10:43:02","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-01-30 10:43:02","user":"2405:9800:b540:afb4:35ed:c621:c606:d89e","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222021-01-30\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222021-01-30\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022MostAwkwardNightEver\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-01-30 10:43:02\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-01-30 10:43:02\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?MostAwkwardNightEver"},"ITryToGetMyFriendLaidAndIBlowItWith":{"bf_titre":"I Try To Get My Friend Laid, And I Blow It With My Girl\u2026","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3PUzibD Do You Reveal Too Much About Your Relationship?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4jAI7F3 Be Yourself: The Truth About Authentic Dating]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3PTX0om Why So Many Relationships End at 90 Days]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Cx3eau There really are NO BAD DATES!]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4hA2IY5 How The Law of Attraction Can Help You Find Love]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3CzmynB A Dude Diner\u2019s Doctrine]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3WFjjSC Soundtrax To Your Life: Pre-Date Tunes]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3PX4ve9 Ms. Awesome\u2019s Advice for Men]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3WJVo4f Bad Relationships Aren\u2019t Investments]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3WFLKja How To Get A One Nite Stand Out Of Your Apartment]]\n\n\u201cDesperation is like stealing from the Mafia: you stand a good chance of attracting the wrong attention.\u201d Doug Horton\n\nA quick run down with Ghetto Club:\n\nI thought I had her right where I wanted her.  I thought I was pretty close to collecting her soul.\nI failed the shit test the night we met to eat and I didn\u2019t pay.  \u201dWe\u2019re not having sex tonight\u201d  Gmac was the only one that picked up on that in the comments.\nThe next two days were solid text messages \u2013 her calling me \u201cdear\u201d, agreeing to rub my feet after a long day, etc.\nThen, that Friday, she called me wanting to hang out.  I said I\u2019d call her back because I was busy.  I called her back \u2013 at 2am, when I was leaving the club \u2013 for a booty call.  She was also leaving the club on another side of town.  I offered to come pick her up \u2013 she gave me a bunch of logistical excuses like she drove, Third Wheel rode with her, etc.   Failed attempt.  She texted me when she got home to let me know she got home and to say goodnight \u2013 I didn\u2019t respond.\nThe next day, Saturday \u2013 she returns the favor, and calls me at 2am.  I was at a bar talking to two chicks and don\u2019t answer.  But, then I call her back thinking maybe she wants a booty call.  I should\u2019ve known better.  She had just gotten home from work and was \u201calready in bed\u201d and \u201cjust wanted to check up on [me].\u201d  She complains about me not texting her back the night before.\nThen, the disastrous phone call.\nI put her on ice for a week.  Let her chill.  No communication.\nI pop back up the next week, text game.  She hits me with a \u201cOoo I\u2019m surprised you remember [me]\u201d text.  I ignore it, change the frame.\nI meet up with her the next day, a Monday, in the park, I bring her some Polish food that my mother had cooked, because she\u2019d never eaten Polish food before.  We hang out in the park and walk around, then walk around the mall a bit.  She wants to shop for a jacket for when she goes to London next month, but I don\u2019t let her.  Back at the car, she shows me her new tattoo.  We kiss and leave.\nI call her Wednesday night and talk shortly while I\u2019m picking up a coffee at Starbucks to study.  Nothing special, just usual normal conversation.\nAt some point, I start having desperation type thoughts.  Crush type thoughts, Spaghetti type thoughts.  Everything she does starts to elicit emotional reactions in my head \u2013 more importantly what she doesn\u2019t do.  She\u2019s not texting me anymore.  She used to hit me up all of the time, then I complained about it, and she hasn\u2019t started a text conversation since.  It did annoy me, I thought I wanted space.   Now that she doesn\u2019t do it, I miss it.  Am I crazy?\nShe calls me Thursday night.  I miss the call.\nIt\u2019s now been three weeks since we last had sex.  We\u2019ve only seen each other twice in the past three weeks \u2013 the date where I didn\u2019t pay, and the Polish food in the park.  I feel like I need to fuck her again \u2013 for various reasons.\nI realize I\u2019m lazy.  In the past when we\u2019ve fucked, it\u2019s been after dates, such as concerts and parties, long, we\u2019ve spent a couple hours having fun together dates and then ravaged each other at the end.   Now, I\u2019ve just been hitting her up when I\u2019m horny and expect her to jump at the chance to come over and fuck me \u2013 she doesn\u2019t jump at such a chance, I\u2019m learning.\nFor some reason, I still try this again \u2013 or at least that\u2019s the plan.  I have to work from 10pm to 2am Saturday night.  I want to chill with her and fuck her after that.   Maybe if I call her in the afternoon and set it up and destroy the logistical problems early I can make it happen?\nI call her, she says she can\u2019t hang out tonight, because\u2019s volunteering at a festival downtown at 7pm.  Her and Third Wheel, and then Third Wheel is spending the night at her house.  I tell her she should get rid of Third Wheel later and come hang out with me, she laughs, \u201cI can\u2019t!  She\u2019s staying at my house!\u201d\nShe calls me back like 5 minutes later \u2013 \u201cOh, well [Third Wheel] and [Fiasco] were supposed to be hanging out tonight anyway, but she didn\u2019t text him back because she knew she\u2019d be with me and she didn\u2019t know if she could hang out with him \u2013 maybe we can all do something together?\u201d   \u201cOh, well, I\u2019m working tonight, doing [blah blah blah].\u201d   \u201cOh.\u201d  \u201dBut, let me call [Fiasco] and see what\u2019s up.\u201d\nSo, yeah\u2026 Fiasco has been texting\/talking to Third Wheel lately.  She\u2019s very pretty with DD breasts.  He wants to fuck her.  He hasn\u2019t hung out with her yet, it\u2019s just been texts.\nI call Fiasco.  He says something like \u201cYeah, I was going to take her to the movies or something.\u201d  First date?  Movies?  I don\u2019t like it, but I tell him what\u2019s up and that I\u2019m working from 10pm until 2am.  I mention that maybe they could come up to where I\u2019m working, and he could come up there and take Third Wheel somewhere else, then Ghetto Club could just chill with me at work.\nI\u2019m working out now, but I try to set something up\u2026 first I text shoot ideas back and forth with Fiasco.\nMe, 3:14 pm:  We might could take these hoes to an after-hours club\u2026.\nFiasco, 3:16 pm:  [Third Wheel] is 20 tho\nMe, 3:34 pm:  You can get in after-hours spots at 18.  They don\u2019t even serve alcohol.\nI start to think.   It doesn\u2019t matter what we do.  I think my intial idea of getting them over and then Fiasco and Third Wheel going somewhere else and doing something else is a good idea.  Based on the phone conversation I had with Fiasco, I thought he was on board with such an idea.   He could take one chick on a date, and I could just be chilling with my chick \u2013 drink with here and spend some time with her while I\u2019m working and making money.\nI feel like it\u2019s a solid plan.\nI text Ghetto Club,\nMe, 4:14 pm:  What time yall volunteering shift end?\nHer, 4:15 pm:  I\u2019m headin over there now and we won\u2019t be done til like 10\nMe, 4:17 pm:  Alright.  Just come [to where I\u0027m working] after that.  I\u2019ll be in there working, [details], but [Fiasco] will stop thru too.\nHer, 4:23 pm:  Ok\nSo, it\u2019s set up\u2026..\nI text Fiasco to let him know it\u2019s on\u2026.\nMe, 4:30 pm:  They gone slide thru [my work] like 1130 or so   [I made up the time, I thought they\u0027d take awhile to get there after getting off of volunteering at 10.]\nFiasco, 4:39 pm:  I wasn\u2019t tyna kick it as a group\nMe, 4:53 pm:  Yeah, I know, that\u2019s why I think you can take [Third Wheel] somewhere.. on like a late date.  It really don\u2019t matter where, just come up with a plan\nFiasco, 4:54 pm:  U said they are coming together at 11 30..that deaded any plans I could have\nFiasco, 4:56 pm:  Don\u2019t take any of this wrong..im not tryna do the group thing tho..ill deal with it tho\nMe, 5:04 pm:  Theyre both working until 10 anyway\u2026 that\u2019s why [Third Wheel] didn\u2019t hit u back cuz she ain\u2019t know if she could hang with you.\nMe, 5:05 pm:  How is chillin at 1130 deading plans?  There\u2019s plenty shit you could do \u2013 its a Saturday night in [city details]\nFiasco, 5:07 pm:  I just don\u2019t like u intervening, \u201ctheyre coming at 11 30\u2033 I don\u2019t like that\nFiasco, 5:08 pm: I know its stuff u could do at 11 30\nMe, 5:11 pm:  Intervening?  I called you before I did it and talked to you about it\u2026\nMe, 5:12 pm:  Bro, you gotta be more chill.  I\u2019m not tryna be a dick, but damn [Fiasco] everytime I do something to try to help you out you take shit the wrong way\nFiasco, 5:12 pm:  Nvmnd..it would be better talk in person\nFiasco, 5:14 pm:  Im an only child.. who had no father figure..so pardon me if I don\u2019t want advice from someone my age..I am chill.. I just like doin my own thing.. like u already fucking with [ghetto club], it just seemed like intervening.  U said u was gone be [working], I never said I wanted to double date\nFiasco, 5:16 pm:  That\u2019s why im usually so private with stuff\nFiasco, 5:22 pm:  I don\u2019t think ur being a dick..u just don\u2019t understand me\nMe, 5:31 pm:  We have communication issues lol.  I actually thought I explained my thought process when I was on the phone with you.  Anyway yeah just me on the phone or we\u2019ll catch up in person and chop it up cuz texting ain\u2019t the way to go right now\nFiasco, 5:31 pm:  Its cool\nSo, whatever\u2026  I take a nap, chill out a bit, and then at 10:00 I\u2019m headed out the door.\nI see a text from Ghetto Club,\nHer, 9:41 pm:  U at [where I\u0027m working]\nMe, 10:02 pm:  Naw, not yet.  I\u2019ll be there in like 30 min\u2026\nAnd, here comes the flake\u2026.\nHer, 10:40 pm:  Ok well we gonna go hang out with some friends.  Ttyl\nBad planning on my part.  No times were exchanged.  I was thinking her getting off of volunteering around 10 meant she wouldn\u2019t be around until later, like 11:30.  I wasn\u2019t even planning on being up there until 10, and I knew I\u2019d be late, so I knew 10:30 was more realistic.  Looks like she texted me at 9:40 trying to see me, and then an hour later, decided to not wait around and make other plans.\nSucks.\nShe\u2019s never flaked on me before for anything, so it pisses me off.  Not gonna lie.\nI just go to work and do what I was normally going to do anyway.  I start drinking vodka and water, because it just taste like straight water to me and with a double shot in each glass, I\u2019ll get drunk pretty quickly.  My night is shot anyway.\nI start to wonder what\u2019s going to happen when Fiasco shows up at 11:30 to date Third Wheel.  I get pissed of at Ghetto Club again for this.\nFiasco texts me,\nFiasco, 11:04 pm:  I got a radiator leak ..\nFiasco, 11:26 pm:  What yall doing?\nI tell him that a friend of ours and a chick from high school are up here and I\u2019m hanging out with them\nNothing special there, but he never shows up.   I start thinking maybe he called Third Wheel and agreed to not meet her tonight.  Which would\u2019ve forced her to be a third wheel again when Ghetto Club was with her \u2013 could\u2019ve lead to this flakery going on\u2026\nI text him later\u2026 once I\u2019m drunk.\nMe, 1:12 am:  Have you talked to [Third Wheel] today?\nMe, 1:13 am:  I don\u2019t even know what I\u2019m allowed to say and not say to these hoes\u2026 please fill me\nFiasco, 1:17 am:  Bro It Doesn\u2019t Matter Lol We Can Talk About It Tomorrow\nMe, 1:21 am:  Have you talked to her today?  I don\u2019t even know what she knows\/don\u2019t knows\nFiasco, 1:27 am:  Yea we talked\nMe, 1:33 am:  You said you wasn\u2019t tryin a chill tongiht?  Basically, I\u2019 m just tryna find out why [Ghetto Club] being a bitch to me\u2026\nOh yeah\u2026 that\u2026 I got drunk, and I was high already, and I was hungry.  So, like a dumbass I couldn\u2019t leave Ghetto Club alone.  I texted her back:\nMe, 12:44 am:  I\u2019 m hungry.  Bring me some food.\nHer, 12:45 am:  \u2026..  Ummmm Ill think about it.\nMe, 12:47 am:  Less thinking.  More doing.\nHer, 12:48 am:  Naaa\nMe, 12:52 am:  Wrong answer\nHer, 12:52 am:  :)\nMe, 12:55 am:  For real girl.  I\u2019m [at place] working, so I can\u2019t leave and I\u2019m really hungry\nHer, 12:56 am:  I\u2019m goin home boy  [At the time I wasn\u0027t sure what this meant, I thought it meant \u0022I\u0027m goin\u0022  and then she was calling me \u0022homeboy\u0022.  Was she possibly about to buy me food?   Now, I read it and realize it probably just means \u0022I\u0027m goin home\u0022  and she\u0027s calling me \u0022boy\u0022.  Yes, I feel stupid... but whatever...]\nMe, 12:57 am:  Translate.  \u201dI\u2019m goin home boy\u201d\u2026 I have no idea what that means\u2026\nHer, 12:58 am: \u2026 Do the math.\nMe, 1:00 am:  Had two tests today\u2026.  no more math\u2026\nHer, 1:00 am:  Ye ayea\nMe, 1:02 am:  [Fast food place], please.  [Meal I want]\nHer, 1:03 am:  No tengo dinero\nMe, 1:07 am:  I\u2019ll pay you back  [At this point, I really was just trying to get some food and couldn\u0027t leave right then - I was honestly hungry as shit.]\nHer, 1:25 am:  Lol how ima buy something when I don\u2019t have money?\nMe, 1:33 am:  You losing points right now [Ghetto Club].  [I was actually starting to get pissed.  Well, no, scratch that, I\u0027d been pissed at her ever since she flaked, but I try to frame in a lighter way than me being emotional and actually pissed off]\nMe, 1:46 am:  I\u2019m drunk, high, and hungry\u2026.\nHer, 1:47 am:  Nobody told u to be drunk high n hungry\nHer, 1:47 am:  Lol\n[At this point, I say fuck it, I\u0027m just going to amuse myself and play the one word game.  I\u0027ll just keep saying random shit until she stops responding.]\nMe, 1:57 am:  Firetruck\nHer, 1:57 am:  What\nMe, 1:59 am:  Australia\nHer, 1:59 am: \u2026\nMe, 2:03 am:  Hovercraft\nHer, 2:03 am:  No more drinking or drugs for u\nMe, 2:05 am:  Lawn mower\nAnd, that was it.  She didn\u2019t respond after that, so I left it alone.  At almost 4:00 am, I\u2019m finally leaving, and guess who shows up?\nFiasco.  Drunk as shit.  Tries to shake my hand and misses.  I\u2019ve sobered up a bit at this point.  I\u2019m just looking at him, he\u2019s rambling\u2026. \u201cyeah bro\u2026. I talked to her bro\u2026 we agreed to just hang out tomorrow\u2026 she wasn\u2019t trying to do the group thing either\u2026. I didn\u2019t think you were a dick bro\u2026 text messages\u2026. bad form of communication\u2026 i could be calm, talking to you like I am now\u2026 and you could think I\u2019m yelling at the top of my lungs\u2026. \u201c\nI acknowledge him and just say, \u201calright bro\u201d, but I\u2019m actually kind of pissed at him too.\nI go home and pass out.\nAt 4:53 am, I awake to the sound of my phone ringing.  It\u2019s Ghetto Club calling me.  What the fuck does she want?\nI answer and hang up, and go back to sleep.\nI have no idea where I\u2019m at now with this girl.   I feel like my game is faltering.   There\u2019s a desparation to want to see her, because I haven\u2019t seen her much lately.  There\u2019s a desperation to fuck her again, because I haven\u2019t fucked her in three weeks.  But, I think I\u2019m going about it wrong.  Like I said, we\u2019ve only fucked after long, fun dates \u2013 no just spur of the moment, \u201ccome get this dick\u201d type of shit.  She doesn\u2019t go for that \u2013 I\u2019ve tried.   Too many times now, probably.  Although, I wonder if her calling me at 5am was a booty call?  I have no idea\u2026\nHer twitter feed from that night shows the following three messages at around 5am:\nTweet #1:  He so fineeee. I wanna ride his faceeee\nTweet #2:  Lol I didn\u2019t know life was full of soo many complications or that I was rude :\/ damn. Reality = not great!\nTweet #3:  White people are f-ing weird\nCould they all be referencing me?  Possibly.  I don\u2019t even know.  I never called her rude though \u2013 I did answer and hang up on her.  Then, again who knows what she did, where she went, how drunk she got, or what her night entailed.  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Alone.]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/415f5F2 An Internal Monologue While Perusing Online Dating Matches]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3QqhiWQ How To Hook Up In A Hostel \u0435\u0441\u0442\u044c 100 \u0434\u0443\u0431\u043b\u0438\u043a\u0430\u0442 \u043d\u0430 frisky ]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/414BBhs How Do You Know When You\u2019re Ready To Vacation Together?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3CZqf6b How To Enjoy Travelling When You\u2019re Not On Your Honeymoon]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4k3LvIK I Fantasize About Other Men]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4i4DDVI Why It\u2019s Easier To Meet Men On Vacation \u0435\u0441\u0442\u044c 100 \u0434\u0443\u0431\u043b\u0438\u043a\u0430\u0442 \u043d\u0430 frisky ]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/417xX6l If You\u2019re 300,000 Miles Away, Don\u2019t Call Your New Man]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4i5sunl Will Our Marriage Survive Our First Road Trip Together?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4i91MKN When On Vacation ... Just Say Yes]]\n\nI unfriended him on FB after he bailed out on plans to spend time together on his days off. He didn\u2019t even bother to cancel, just didn\u2019t call or text. He finally contacted me late that night and said he\u2019d been playing video games. I didn\u2019t handle things well, but he just refused to work through any of it. It was like \u201cshit got real\u201d and he didn\u2019t want to deal with it. All that talk of love just went out the window, and I became the one with the problem. I was untrusting, I needed to do some soul searching, I wasn\u2019t ready for a relationship.\n\nWhen all this went down I had this niggling feeling that I needed to look back at the dating sited so I re-enabled my profile. He wasn\u2019t online right away, but then BAM\u2026.there he was. Apparently he hadn\u2019t actually deleted his profile either, just disabled it. He was online for days around the clock and then \u201cpoof\u201d disabled it again. After talking to the wonderful staff at OKC, I realized that I had just encountered a scammer. He was probably back online duping the next woman. Love bombing her within mere minutes of ending us. So moral of the story. I\u2019m an idiot. I fell for all that \u201ccommitment\u201d stuff, and got someone who had no intention of having a real relationship and who didn\u2019t really \u201clove\u201d me afterall.\n\nI know I am probably going to get picked apart on this one, and that is okay. I just want other woman out there to realize that there are men out there that are really good at pretending to be unicorns to get\u2026.I don\u2019t know what\u2026. Sex, I guess. Don\u2019t be like me and give away the farm when a man dangles that \u201ccommitment\u201d carrot, thinking you are something special\u2026\u2026until he proves that to you. And that takes time\u2026\u2026.Maybe this guy really wanted a relationship and just doesn\u2019t have the tool kit to actually keep one together. Or maybe he was just a no good liar who never had good intentions to start with. But either way he\u2019s F\u0026amp;(*d up\u2026.def f\u2019d up.\n\nLike or Dislike: Thumb up 7 Thumb down 1\n\nReply\n\n\nWtf Says:\nFebruary 11th, 2015 at 6:15 pm\nWhy is anyone taking advice from this woman who is 44 and single?\n\n\u201cAt 44 I have come to terms with the reality that marriage is probably not in my future. I would love to say that this was my choice all along. 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I\u2019d rather see their daily learning and growing everyday than just dump-out and contribute to whatever might happen to them in my absence. So yeah, staying married for them is not a cop-out as everyone says. There are reasons why some of us stay and that is a good reason.\n\n20-Year Vet6 years ago\nGreat blog and great comments. I identify with so much of what is said on both sides of the issue. I have been married for going on 18 years, 3 kids, picket fence, etc\u2026 I live in a nice neighborhood and travel a lot for work. I know a ton of men who do the same and are all over the spectrum on this issue.\n\nI read about Tinder in an Esquire Mag article a month or two back (wish these aps exsisted when I was a kid;) and I have to say they sound very entertaining. It is hard not to download it and just see what the hype is about, i\u2019m sure there is more than just single 20 something\u2019s on there.\n\nAnyway, here is another perspective on why men wander even when they have a good marriage. For me I grew up in the 80\u2019s in Hollywood, CA. I was into the early punk and alt scene and I loved going to music festivals, concerts, and clubs. I stayed interested in these things all the way through to today. This is just a snip-it so you can get an understanding of where I am coming from as I dont want to leave a novel on your blog.\n\nForward 20 something years later, I am not religious and my wife has gone extreme the other way. My kids are now being taught things that I do not believe or stand for. Its a slippery slope. I still love concerts and music festivals but now I go to them by myself (I would much rather go with my wife). I did not grew up with money so a big house and things are not important to me even though I am able to provide them. These things are very important to my wife. She has surrounded herself with friends that are conservative and religious and dont get me wrong, I am social and I enjoy their company , but I have to watch what I say. I on the other hand hang out with music festival, band, tattooed type people that she will not be around. I enjoy travel, outdoors, shows like the Following, Lost, etc but I find the older we grow together the less we have in common besides our kids. This is just some very surface background. It is hard to go from doing everything together to a relationship that has become very one sided. I do most of the things she wants to do so we keep our relationship in tact, but she will not do anything that I enjoy doing.\n","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-02-25","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-02-25","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"OncemarriedIsOnTheMoneyOnTheIssueWithC","date_creation_fiche":"2025-02-25 10:22:35","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-02-25 10:22:35","user":"49.145.97.180","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-02-25\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-02-25\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022OncemarriedIsOnTheMoneyOnTheIssueWithC\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-02-25 10:22:35\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-02-25 10:22:35\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?OncemarriedIsOnTheMoneyOnTheIssueWithC"},"SmokingWhoAreUnwillingToDate":{"bf_titre":"smoking who are unwilling to date","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/413MsYW Why Sex Talk On a First Date Is a Bad Idea]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/411Tqxz Is He Interested or Just An Attention Whore?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4k7QQiq Never Give a Man More Credit Then He\u2019s Earned]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4gLPp63 Stop Accepting Bad Behavior From Men]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/416nl7B When Do You Ask A Guy If Things Are Serious?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4k3jAsi Is She Doomed To End Up Alone?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/412YrGe Why The \u201cHot\u201d People In This Article Aren\u2019t Worth Dating]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3ETV78F When You Get Dumped Sometimes You\u2019re To Blame, Too]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41np1uM Never Double Down On A Guy Who Can\u2019t Guarantee He\u2019ll Stick Around]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4k29kRb How To Deal With The Push Pull Guy]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4gPGoZZ Who Has More Luck Online \u2013 Men or Women?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4k3jCAq The Tell Tale Tatt]]\n\n\nBTownGirl Says:\nApril 3rd, 2014 at 12:03 pm\nGoldie, it took me FIVE tries to quit, so I get exactly what you\u2019re saying. I couldn\u2019t date a smoker personally because I\u2019d wind up starting again. I totally agree that being honest and respectful about these things is the way to go!\n\nWell-loved. Like or Dislike: Thumb up 13 Thumb down 0\n\nReply\n\n\nG. Says:\nApril 3rd, 2014 at 12:35 pm\nIn fairness, they\u2019re both as bad as each other but it\u2019s a classic sign of an insecure guy with no dating options. Instead of dating the women he wants, he just goes for whatever comes his way and tries to change them into what he wants. I don\u2019t agree with doing this.\n\nso first off. 8 weeks ddoesn\u2019t make a lasting relationship. If I was given an ultimatum after 8 9weeks about something which long predates meeting that person I\u2019d walk too. Now if I was dating them for 2 years and suddenly developed a smoking habit. Sure, their input is relevant but not after 8 weeks. If he doesn\u2019t like smokers it\u2019s irresponsible to date a smoker and change them. Same goes for anything. If you don\u2019tlike your partner sky diving. DDon\u2019t date a sky diver.\n\non her side though.. same. At least she was honestand ddidn\u2019t try to hide it or anything that\u2019s a plus. The flip side is that every smoker does have a plan.. I know. I\u2019ve had a plan for 4 years.. lol. So she can\u2019t really be upset with people who don\u2019t like smoking who are unwilling to date her unless thisplan comes to fruition .\n\nHot debate. What do you think? Thumb up 10 Thumb down 5\n\nReply\n\n\nYvonne Says:\nApril 3rd, 2014 at 1:14 pm\n","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-02-19","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-02-19","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"SmokingWhoAreUnwillingToDate","date_creation_fiche":"2025-02-19 10:41:20","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-02-19 10:41:20","user":"66.249.66.169","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-02-19\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-02-19\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022SmokingWhoAreUnwillingToDate\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-02-19 10:41:20\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-02-19 10:41:20\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?SmokingWhoAreUnwillingToDate"},"WebinaireExceptionnel":{"bf_titre":"Webinaire exceptionnel","bf_description":"[qsdfghj](https:\/\/www.google.fr)","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2025-03-04","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2025-03-04","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"WebinaireExceptionnel","date_creation_fiche":"2025-03-04 14:55:37","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-03-04 14:55:37","user":"66.249.66.160","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222025-03-04\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222025-03-04\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022WebinaireExceptionnel\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-03-04 14:55:37\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-03-04 14:55:37\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?WebinaireExceptionnel"},"AreYouFightingTooMuchOrNotEnoughTheBa":{"bf_titre":"Are You Fighting Too Much or Not Enough? The Balance of Healthy Conflict","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3FzAU8H He Cheats on Me During Business Trips]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4kybJUa He Cheated with a Woman from the Gym]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4kybKrc He Dotes On His Son and Ignores Me]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4kUHFSz He Didn\u0027t Know How to Listen to Her]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/43N1QM8 He Flirts Too Much]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Dx1wGV Marriage Advice: 13 Lessons]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3XV0kDU Separate Vacations Don\u2019t Have to Mean Divorce]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DyQ39M Are Soul Mates Fact or Fiction?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4kybNTU Love vs. Parenthood: When the Perfect Partner Doesn\u2019t Want Kids]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4kUHHKb Caring for Dad Is Destroying My Marriage]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DJU37i First Date: Who Pays and What It Really Means]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Dv3Kqg Dating a Dad: When You Like Him But Not His Kid]]\n\n\n\n\nCali Bradshaw\nMarch 22, 2011 at 8:12 pm #\nHahah I love sarcasm! I had to laugh a little too as I re-read the comments last night. Such anger! And all on a little pink blog. Come on kids. I am not writing a thesis here on the truths of the the world.\n\nCompletely agree that what it comes down to is being thoughtful and considerate AND about the part about wanting a man who will take charge of a date. I love when a guy calls me up and suggests a date, time and place. It is extremely attractive to know he has put so much thought into me already. And yep, once you are in a \u201creal\u201d relationship \u2013 that\u2019s a whole other set of rules.\n\nThanks for the comment!\n\nReply\n\nRoss Felix\nMarch 22, 2011 at 1:45 pm #\nIt\u2019s no surprise to me that this topic has stirred up such a debate. You\u2019ve got guys who are \u201cdoing it wrong\u201d so to speak who are getting a rude awakening, you\u2019ve got guys who feel vindicated for paying, and you\u2019ve got women on both sides of the issue.\n\nAs I see it there are only two issues in dating that possibly would get more reactions, \u201cWhy am I a slut if I sleep with him on the first date, whereas he\u2019s awesome for doing it\u201d or \u201cCan I date my friend\u2019s ex?\u201d (And before you slam me about the sex comment, I do believe what\u2019s good for one gender is good for the other.)\n","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-03-17","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-03-17","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"AreYouFightingTooMuchOrNotEnoughTheBa","date_creation_fiche":"2025-03-17 16:53:45","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-03-17 16:53:45","user":"185.107.162.250","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-03-17\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-03-17\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022AreYouFightingTooMuchOrNotEnoughTheBa\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-03-17 16:53:45\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-03-17 16:53:45\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?AreYouFightingTooMuchOrNotEnoughTheBa"},"FromRoommatesToSoulmatesReclaimingPassion":{"bf_titre":"From Roommates to Soulmates: Reclaiming Passion in a Long-Term Marriage.","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DzDL0U He Had an Affair Because I Stopped Initiating Sex]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4hiX8sN He Makes Me Feel Bad About Being Fat]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DJhz4p He Lost Interest in Our Marriage]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4hkeh5t Saving A Marriage: He Lost His Job]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4ie35sj He Lets His Mother Rule Our Lives and I\u0027m Sick of It]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DPhuME Commitment Jitters]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3FBCVkF Love and Lust: When Chemistry Outruns Endurance]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4heaIh2 Bi Bi Love]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/42ejPd6 Dealing With Your Partner\u2019s Bedroom Confessions]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DL0vLm Can His Squalor Be Squelched?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/43Zhkwy Asunder Down Under]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iaTwKD Conquering Long Distance Dating]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3FBCVBb Coveting a Coworker]]\n\n\nAlthough, any sane woman should run from him away as fast as she can.\n\nAnd yet, most of those women don\u2019t. Because the women who pursue men like you\u2019ve describe base his value on quantity, not quality. They\u2019re the women who jump at the chance to commit and end up with the cheaters, crash and burners and emotionally bankrupt. In short, they\u2019re the women who scoffed at the 36 year old guy whose longest relationship was 6 months, but thought nothing of the men who commit after a week.\n\nLike or Dislike: Thumb up 6 Thumb down 3\n\nReply\nJS says:\nFebruary 13, 2012 at 2:40 pm\nRe-read my post\u2026.I didnt say the men who dont commit are shitbags. I said:\n\n\u201cI am not saying that the guy WHO COMMITS is a great guy or even a good guy. He could have numerous multi-year relationships under his belt but still be a SHITBAG and an awful, cheating, abusive boyfriend. Or maybe he\u2019s just a lame, mediocre, ambivalent guy who tends to take his women for granted. Or maybe he\u2019s actually a great boyfriend.\u201d\n\nMy point is while it is true that just b\/c someone commits doesnt mean they are great boyfriends. The men who dont commit\u2026.dont commit.\n\nAnd what is wrong with a man going out with a woman for 3-9 months or 2 yrs and realizing \u201chey we dont work for a life-long committment\u201d??? Would it be better that be married the wrong girl? No of course not. And yes, the work-hard\/play hard guy who never commits may be holding out for \u201cthe one\u201d or hasnt found anyone worth committing to or is picky \u2026.OR one should see their actions for what they are\u2026indicative of their lack of desire\/abililty to commit.\n","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2023-03-18","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2023-03-18","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"FromRoommatesToSoulmatesReclaimingPassion","date_creation_fiche":"2025-03-18 17:25:08","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-03-18 17:25:08","user":"185.107.162.250","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222023-03-18\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222023-03-18\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022FromRoommatesToSoulmatesReclaimingPassion\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-03-18 17:25:08\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-03-18 17:25:08\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?FromRoommatesToSoulmatesReclaimingPassion"},"HowToMakeAManFeelLikeAMan":{"bf_titre":"How to make a man feel like a man.","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4bCTPeO He Went to War and Came Back a Changed Man]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3XYmpBu Unmasking Hidden Unhappiness in Marriage]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4hmImRV Workaholic Heartbreak: When Success Costs Your Marriage]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4kACG9E Recession Realities: When Financial Stress Tests a Marriage]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3RgepYW When Unemployment Tests Marriage]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3RhVRaJ Movies That All Women Should See To Understand Men]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Y0Q64V Love Lies and Responsibility]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DTY35d The Dating Mishaps of the Ladies of Love Twenty]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3RoJzxb The Black Male Preference Privilege]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3RjLaV4 Anatomy of a Great (Reality) Relationship]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DQedfU Your Rear End or Your Pride]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Y24B8F Why Splitting Costs Isn\u0027t Splitting Love]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3RgxeLs (Broken) Laws of Attraction ]]\n\nI know I have mentioned some the flaw of women to romanticize men and their relationships with them. Fictionalizing things in our heads is, in my opinion, or number one curse. We search for this \u201ctrue love\u201d our \u201csoul mate\u201d and we will not settle for less, so when we find a man who mostly fits, we just make up the rest in our heads until they are complete. It\u2019s a horrible habit. Here is another thing that we do that is detrimental to our own happiness.\n\n\nWomen want (well we never really know\u2026but I\u2019ll discuss that at a later date) a man who will support her, love her unconditionally, be her best friend and her equal in all things. Here it is ladies\u2026it\u2019s probably not going to happen! Men just don\u2019t think the way we do\u2026and unless as a gender we decide to band together and starting with this new generation, breed young boys to think like women so that sometime in the future they can be the \u201cperfect man\u201d for some lucky lady\u2026it\u2019s just not going to happen! The sooner we, not only realize this, but accept it, the better!\n\nAs women we need to be smart enough to seek our support and understanding from them, but also from our close girlfriends. Women who think their man should be the one to tell secrets to, talk about every small detail of their day to, complain about co-workers, tell them that their age\/weight\/hair\/clothes are perfect, that it\u2019s okay to be annoyed with their nagging mother\/mother-in-law, are insane! Do NOT get me wrong, your man should be somebody that you can trust, that you can go to with things, that you can talk to, but he is not your girlfriend.\n\nMen do NOT think the way we do. When you come home and say I had a bad day at work, so and so isn\u2019t treating me right, they want to charge in there and confront them because that\u2019s how they\u2019d solve the problem if it was them. Well\u2026you aren\u2019t them. You just want them to listen to you and say, \u201cHoney, I\u2019m sorry. That must be so hard for you.\u201d Newsflash\u2026not gonna happen ladies. That\u2019s what your girlfriend is for.\n\nYou tell a man a problem and they want to fix it. If you tell them a problem they can\u2019t fix, or that you don\u2019t want them to fix, they\u2019re just going to be frustrated. More than that they will also feel like less of a man for not being able to help you the way they\u2019d like to.\n\nThis brings me to another issue that, for whatever reason, women keep forgetting. The number 1 rule is to make your man feel like a MAN! This has nothing to do with women\u2019s rights or gender equality\u2026if you think it does you are stupid. Sorry, but you are.\n\nI consider myself to be an independent woman. I fend for myself for the most part. I rely on myself to pay bills, make big purchases, to do home repairs, and most importantly, for my own happiness. I do not \u201cneed\u201d a man but I sure as shit want one. I love them! They make you feel pretty, desired and cherished. They smell good either straight out of the shower or after a day of yard work. When I\u2019m upset nothing makes me feel quite as good as being held tight against their chest. Nothing will ever make my heart race quite like a man who wants me. And, nothing will ever make me melt like a man who places his hand on the small of your back, EVER. This can take place when leading me into a room or standing in a group talking to others while stroking you lightly there. There is something about that act that is both gentlemanly and sexy; that makes me feel safe and treasured. For those and many other reasons a man in your life (the right man) can be so nice. Like I said, I\u2019m okay alone but there is a certain joy that comes with sharing your day with somebody special.\n\nI don\u2019t need all the bells and whistles of chair and door holding, although it is nice, but I will tell you, when a man subconsciously walks on the outside of the sidewalk (closest to the street), because that\u2019s what a gentleman does\u2026well that\u2019s just cute. For me, it\u2019s those little acts, acts that most people may not even notice, that slay me. Loving these things does not make me any less a strong woman. And, stroking a mans ego by asking for help with something I could manage on my own isn\u2019t weak. Let him hang that picture or check your tires air pressure. Make sure he knows that his strength, his \u201cprotector\u201d capabilities are needed and appreciated, because that\u2019s the way he shows you he loves you, and that\u2019s how you can show him you love him in a way he\u2019ll understand. It\u2019s important he feels invaluable to me, because he is, in so many way\u2019s he\u2019ll never understand or appreciate.\n\nI love to give my man backrubs. I love to give my man space (Hey, I need my own too!). I love to do things he loves to do, like watch a sports game, go shooting, go fishing; mostly because I love these things are well. It\u0027s important for him to know you desire him. Send him a sexual text randomly in the middle of the day so he knows you can\u0027t wait until he gets home to you. Kiss him unexpectantly. Initiate love making. Praise, sex, and beer...it\u0027s simple ladies! I love to make him happy\u2026because let\u2019s face it\u2026if he is happy\u2026so are we.\n\nI think if more women remembered this and got off their high horse they\u2019d be a whole lot happier. Relationships would be more stable and men would feel fulfilled and less likely to cheat\u2026but that\u2019s just my highly un-expert or research based opinion.\n\nStrong women are sexy; don\u2019t give that up; just know how to make him feel like your world. Men are, in my opinion, just larger sized boys who still want and seek approval from the women in their life. A \u201cBaby, what would I do without you.\u201d lets them know how much we love them. No harm done to us ladies.","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2024-03-20","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2024-03-20","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"HowToMakeAManFeelLikeAMan","date_creation_fiche":"2025-03-20 17:44:10","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-03-20 17:44:10","user":"185.107.162.250","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222024-03-20\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222024-03-20\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022HowToMakeAManFeelLikeAMan\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-03-20 17:44:10\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-03-20 17:44:10\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?HowToMakeAManFeelLikeAMan"},"MrDenial":{"bf_titre":"Mr. Denial","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4j6gN0p How a Meddling Mother Nearly Ruined My Marriage]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iU3Cj0 How We Rebuilt Our Marriage Through Therapy]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41Z9CjH Saving a Marriage After an Affair]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41Z9DUN Can Marriage Survive Infidelity?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4j5u3lZ Is Your Marriage a Partnership or a Prison?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4l6wdng Keep Him From Walking Out That Door]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4j4unBq Managing Expectations in Dating]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4j4upcw Why I Believe In Marriage]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4j21Jkq Dating Advice From Happily Married Couples]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4j4dFSB The Man or the Money]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/421UmCz Walk Away From Parental Control in Relationships]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iZu4rt When You\u2019re Stuck in the \u201cCasual Dating\u201d Zone]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4j3RWKI A Necessary Courtesy or Just Overkill in Online Dating?]]\n\nSince my last post from Boston, I\u2019ve relocated to Ithaca, NY for my sister\u2019s graduation.  While I am thrilled to be here for her commencement activities, all this family stuff has temporarily put a stop to my man-shopping until I leave for New York City tomorrow morning.  So until my NYC adventures begin, I\u2019ll try to amuse you with more ramblings about the Parisian scene.\n\nAccording to my personal field research, many anglophone women \u2014 particularly American women \u2014 will have trouble communicating certain things to their Parisian suitors.  This kind of miscommunication primarily revolves around the idea that anglophone women spend most of their waking hours turning down Parisian creeps, and said Parisian creeps spend most of their time in denial of this fact.\n\nThe best way to illustrate this particular anthropological phenomenon is with this handy chart that I\u2019ve drawn up for you.\n\n\n\nAs you can see, dating in Paris can be fraught with misunderstandings.\n\nA while back, I speculated that my lack of success on the Parisian dating scene could be due in part to an inherent language problem.  But after the epiphany that resulted in the above chart, I now also believe that liaisons between anglophones and francophones could potentially be doomed for reasons that have nothing to do with language.\n\nSimply put, Houston, we have a cultural problem.\n\nFor whatever reason, dating rituals here require the men to act like ass-hats and, unfortunately, the women seem to put up with them or egg them on.\n\nI haven\u2019t been able to figure out how to beat the system, so to speak, but I\u2019ve a number of friends who have offered their advice on the matter.  My buddy, Martin, who has long been baffled and concerned by the absurdity that is my love life in Paris, only had four words for me:\n\n\u201cStop dating French guys.\u201d\n\nHowever, even though I agree with him in principle, in practice, I\u2019m not going to stop dating Frenchmen.\n\nIt\u2019s not that I\u2019m determined to have a relationship with a Frenchman.\n\nIt\u2019s just that I\u2019m having so much fun with this blog.\n\nAnd come on, you know that you love reading about these Parisian ass-clowns* that I meet.\n\nSo when I return to Paris next month, it\u2019s on to the next\u2026\n\n\u2026French-tard!\n\n*This great new addition to my vocabulary has come by way of my friend, Iroquois Pliskin.  He has quite a way with words, and he and his brother have introduced me to wonderfully useful terms like \u201cskank-pronging\u201d and \u201cschmo-hawk.\u201d  I tip my hat to their skilled wordsmithing.","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2023-03-26","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2023-03-26","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"MrDenial","date_creation_fiche":"2025-03-26 17:32:59","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-03-26 17:32:59","user":"185.107.162.250","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222023-03-26\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222023-03-26\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022MrDenial\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-03-26 17:32:59\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-03-26 17:32:59\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?MrDenial"},"CompletelyRandomFridayThoughts":{"bf_titre":"Completely Random Friday Thoughts","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41V0MU7 Surviving a Long-Term Affair and Saving a Marriage]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iwlwbV Transforming Communication and Parenting in a Troubled Marriage]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4c037lm Healing a Marriage by Confronting Insecurities and Building Trust]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4kSx1Mh Religious Differences and Strengthening Marriage Bonds]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4bUogNH The Affection Gap: Bridging Emotional Distance in a Long-Term Marriage]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4bUohkJ Workplace Dating Detours]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4bUohRL When Blind Dates Go Wrong]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4bUoiFj Comfort Vs. Fulfillment In Modern Dating]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41R8Y7P Demanding Respect and Openness in a Relationship]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4bVNmvE Get Outta My Dating Pool]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iFRbaL Seeking Clarity and Connection in Dating]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4izaKBE Gym Flirting 101]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41Yixlv Finding Balance in Love After Loss]]\n\nI had to share a couple stories with you that made me laugh so hard I almost peed my pants. Because of my reaction to these tales I am almost 100% sure I am doomed to an eternity in hell. Heck-I want to be where the party is so I\u0027m okay with this.\n\nThe first was when my grandmother told me her friend in Florida had gotten lost driving home from the old age home her husband was in. I know this is sad, but the lady drives this route every day and has for months...so her brain fart was my comedy fodder. I can\u2019t help picturing this little old lady lost in the bowels of sunny, friendly, Florida.\n\nApparently she straight up panicked and called their other mutual friend Duchess (yup, that\u2019s her name) freaking out. Now, she only made a left instead of a right on Rt. 19 and in no way was she in danger\u2026so I feel I can laugh at her. She just kept right on driving, despite nothing looking familiar and never once thought to turn around and try the other direction. She also never considered stopping for directions despite the fact that her initial confusion started around 4:30 and well within daylight hours there.\n\nMy grandmother is describing her panic and the calls to Duchess and she is laughing too and then scolding me because, \u201cGetting old and forgetting things is not funny! Wait till it happens to you.\u201d Um, when it happens to me I fully expect people to laugh at my wrinkly ass! She does not have Alzheimer\u2019s; I\u2019m not totally cruel, she just wasn\u2019t all there that day.\n\nMy Yiayia tells me that she was directionally confused because, and I quote, \u201cWell you know she only has one eye.\u201d Um\u2026WHAT!? No, I did not know that Penny had one freaking eye. I\u2019m sorry\u2026what!? I lost it. I am picturing an old lady in a Florida style muumuu with an eye patch and lost in broad daylight when all she had to do was pull a U-ey. I mean\u2026come on! That shit is funny. She was afraid to make a u-turn because she only has a left eye and was afraid she wouldn\u2019t see cars coming from her right. Why is this woman driving!? A rant on old ass drivers that I will surely explore later! Her friend directed her to make a U-turn and she made her way home. End of story\u2026but come on!\n\nThe next gem from today came from my friend Jacki who was cornered at by a drunken co-worker that we both went to college with\u2026and then followed her into the work force. This guy was gaga for Jacki in college and had no shot then, nor does he now. He was the typical lacrosse player, cocky, slutty with snake like charm, and overall dirty. No way in hell is Jacki touching this guy\u2026and she has told him as much. So even though he has been with his girl (who was married when the relationship started and has since divorced her husband) for 3 plus years he decided to drunken text her from across the bar table last night.\n\nI believe the texts read something like this:\n\nGuy: Are you in? You know I like you!\nJacki: No!\nGuy: Come on\u2026you know I\u2019ve always liked you.\nJacki: Yes, we\u2019ve been over this. I have never and will never like you in that way.\nGuy: Why do you fight what we have?\nJacki: Because we have nothing and you are entirely too drunk to be having this conversation with!\n\nThe texting stops for a while but Guy proceeds to shadow Jacki all night long. When the party is wrapping up and the cabs have been called, Jacki, who drove and doesn\u2019t drink, went to walk out to her car. Guy decided this would be the perfect time to invite himself back to her place. Jacki tried nicely to tell him to go back inside and that he was not invited back to her house. He proceeded to grab her and pull her towards him. She re-tells the story of her almost snapping her neck to keep her face away from his and I believe her.\n\nThe thing is, this guy was a notorious manwhore in college but never once did you hear the ladies saying, \u201cYou have got to sleep with Guy, he will rock your world in the sack.\u201d Or anything of the kind. I can only assume this is because he was about quantity over quality and never having to work for pussy never had to work to be good with the pussy. If he was renowned around campus as being a great lover I\u2019d tell her to take one for the team so we could all know what it was like\u2026and being the dear she is\u2026she\u2019d do it\u2026but no\u2026that\u2019s not the case.\n\nWhy do guys assume that getting drunk, professing their love, and getting pushy will work. Like we are supposed to say, \u201cThat\u2019s right. Thank God you got stupid drunk and demanded I admit my feelings for you. You are so attractive in this state. Please, please take me right now!\u201d That will never happen. That is not an attractive quality in a man.\n\nSo these are the two stories that made me laugh so hard I thought I was going to die. I had tears streaming from my eyes and cramps in my side. I am aware that laughing at these situations makes me a horrible person\u2026and today I am okay with it.\n\nI am off to see lights with Re and her son, then out for a girls night dinner followed by the bar with friends. I am hoping for laughs and good times. I\u2019ll be sure and fill you all in on how the night progresses. J Have a wonderful weekend everyone.","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2024-03-24","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2024-03-24","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"CompletelyRandomFridayThoughts","date_creation_fiche":"2025-03-24 17:51:40","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-03-24 17:51:40","user":"66.249.79.6","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222024-03-24\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222024-03-24\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022CompletelyRandomFridayThoughts\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-03-24 17:51:40\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-03-24 17:51:40\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?CompletelyRandomFridayThoughts"},"PlayingTheGameVsEnjoyingTheNightABett":{"bf_titre":"Playing the Game vs. Enjoying the Night: A Better Approach","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4j71lkI Marriage vs. Addiction: Winning the Battle for Love]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Y176Ig Marriage Without Intimacy: Can Love Survive the Distance?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3RlpxUo Holding On or Letting Go: When Addiction Tests a Marriage]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3QRZeFf The Marriage We Almost Lost: How Unemployment Changed Everything]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DWXmIn Marriage And Chaos: Finding Common Ground in Parenting]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DUscBy He Seemed Interested. So Why Didn\u2019t He Call?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4j5nIH7 Online Dating Isn\u2019t Desperation]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iRfgeP Changing Your Dating Approach]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4c3yRWJ Why Modern Dating is More Complicated Than Ever]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iXYkD2 Dating Someone With Debt]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41JHmCI Marriage vs. Parenthood: Life After Having a Baby]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Xw23iW The Fine Line Between Casual Dating and Commitment]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DTawpM How to Handle the Truth After Discovering a Betray]]\n\n\nIt\u2019s all fascinating to me. :) This is part of why going out is fun to me and why I progressed decent. A lot of guys, especially older Manosphere types, just hate people in general\u2026they want pussy but they hate all the \u201cwork\u201d they have to do to get it and they view it all AS \u201cwork\u201d. Guys like the RSD instructors are just out fucking around having fun expressing themselves and enjoying making people react and getting to know them and take them on adventures and stuff. That\u2019s the right attitude, ultimately.\n\nNo one reads a bitter Manosphere guy\u2019s post and is like \u201cman, I\u2019d like to hang out with THAT guy all night and introduce the cute girls in my social circle to him!\u201d lol It\u2019s more like \u201cI like the guy\u2019s writing, he has some valid points, but fuck what a negative piece of shit\u201d. :)\n\n\u201cWe all were talking in a circle for a bit, and then there was the idea to dance.\u201d\n\nlol fuck I hate dancing. Girls always jump at the chance. Tyler used to joke, when the Black Eyed Peas were new, \u201cDo you have any idea how many times fucking Andre 3000 has cockblocked me??\u201d lol Soon as a song comes on the girls go \u201cOMG OMG OMG LETS GO DAAAAANCE!!!!\u201d and it\u2019s like fuuuuuuck sarge is blown lol\n\n\u201cIn my mind I\u2019m like \u2018fuck this, I\u2019m not running a race with these two chodes.\u2019\u201d\n\nGood. If you don\u2019t LOVE dancing, like you wouldn\u2019t go to a club JUST to dance, then if you\u2019ve got heavy kino with a girl and it\u2019s later in the night and the dance floor is crowded enough that you can isolate her from her friends a bit and the attraction is there that you feel like you can escalate to sexy grinding and become a \u201ccouple\u201d for the rest of the night afterward, cool, go dance with her. But if it\u2019s anything less than that, you\u2019re just shooting yourself in the foot and killing attraction while you dance 2 feet away from her feeling insecure and you\u2019re all in a circle facing eachother friend-zone style.\n\nAt least if you just vanish, you\u2019re still a little mysterious and she can wonder what dancing with you would be like.\n\nI actually sometimes go \u201cOkay ya let\u2019s go\u201d and let everyone else walk in front of me to the dance floor and then before I get to the floor I just veer off and go somewhere else and talk to other people or get a drink or go to the bathroom etc. and don\u2019t go onto the dance floor to join them at all lol It makes the girl go \u201cwait what? Where did YaReally go??\u201d and it\u2019s not much but hey, she\u2019s thinking about me and it gives her a reason to re-open me when she sees me later (\u201chey how come you didn\u2019t come dance??\u201d) where I might be able to build some more attraction and escalate and dance with her on my own terms if I want to dance.\n","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-03-27","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-03-27","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"PlayingTheGameVsEnjoyingTheNightABett","date_creation_fiche":"2025-03-27 17:52:04","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-03-27 17:52:04","user":"185.107.162.250","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-03-27\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-03-27\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022PlayingTheGameVsEnjoyingTheNightABett\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-03-27 17:52:04\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-03-27 17:52:04\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?PlayingTheGameVsEnjoyingTheNightABett"},"MyNewBoyfriend":{"bf_titre":"My new boyfriend.","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Rwg1Og My Dead First Husband Is Haunting My Marriage]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4hRj9z3 My Husband Is Ashamed of Me]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3QZXgTo My Husband Barely Talks to Me Anymore \u2014 So I Cheated on Him]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3RsgcKy My Husband Is a Big Bore]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Rwg5xu My Husband is a Compulsive Gambler]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3QV00kT My Husband Is Depressed]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3RvOuMW When Your Boyfriend Flirts Too Much]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iKwaM9 When \u0022Taking It Slow\u0022 Feels Like a Red Flag]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4jiPxvP The Ethics Of Breaking Up With A Sick Partner]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Yf5AlZ State of the Relationship Union]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DZc5CI Widowed and Dating: Navigating Sympathy and Honesty]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4i1TgwB Love vs. Security: Can You Build a Future Without That \u2018Spark\u2019?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4iJ2FdA What Really Counts as Cheating?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4jgDpLK Polyamory Dating or Just Playing?]]\n\nI have a new boyfriend, and he\u0027s been occupying nearly all my free time these past few weeks. His name is Don Draper.\n\nI was a bit late to hop on the Mad Men phenomenon -- but once I did, it was full steam ahead. Netflix couldn\u0027t get the DVDs to me fast enough -- I had to start downloading them from iTunes. Every night, I was sucked into the goings-on at Sterling Cooper. On weekend days, entire afternoons were devoted to the latest drama between Don and Betty.\n\nFINALLY, I\u0027m caught up! I watched all three seasons in as many weeks, and I\u0027m relieved to have my life back. I did manage to have a few real-life dates in the meantime -- updates to follow soon. There\u0027s even one guy who has my attention more than the others (besides Don Draper, that is -- our relationship has nearly run its course, as this season is about to end).\n\nOne last tidbit of amusement:\n\nA few days ago, I got a call from a number I didn\u0027t recognize. I didn\u0027t pick up. I then received this text from the same number a few minutes later:\n\nHi, it\u0027s Joe Shmoe from a few years ago. I have a crazy idea, and would like to discuss if you have an open mind -- if you know what I mean.\n\nBackground: \u0022Joe\u0022 and I dated about 3 years ago (pre-blog) for a few months, but it was never serious. It just didn\u0027t have the makings of a great romance. (or even a not-so-great one, for that matter)\n\nI texted back asking for details, and he said it was easier to discuss on the phone. I called him, more out of curiosity than anything else -- he said that he got married last year, and he and his wife have been talking about having a threesome, and would I be interested?\n\nI laughed out loud, and sarcastically thanked him for thinking of me, but it just wasn\u0027t my thing. It\u0027s especially bizarre because he does NOT seem like the kind of guy who would be into that at all -- I recall that he was a pretty straight-laced, button-up kind of guy.\n\nCheck back in a few days for updates on Mr Cool, Smooch, a new guy I shall dub \u0022Captain Awesome\u0022, and someone who will simply be known as \u0022Sourpuss\u0022. 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And he even shared it on his fan page where I am getting a lot of nice comments and support. My night just got a little bit better :)\n\n\nSingle Steve\nMarch 22, 2011 at 6:39 am #\nSingle Steve is single\u2026\n\n\nyohami\nMarch 23, 2011 at 3:31 am #\nSteve, check the shit test thing at hooking up smart\n\nReply\n\nSingle Steve\nMarch 23, 2011 at 8:13 pm #\n\u201ccheck the shit test thing at hooking up smart\u201d\nUm, what?\n\n\nCali Bradshaw\nMarch 24, 2011 at 2:12 am #\n","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-03-14","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-03-14","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"WhenYourKidsDontLikeYourNewPartnerWhat","date_creation_fiche":"2025-03-14 16:28:58","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-03-14 16:28:58","user":"66.249.66.160","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-03-14\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-03-14\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022WhenYourKidsDontLikeYourNewPartnerWhat\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-03-14 16:28:58\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-03-14 16:28:58\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?WhenYourKidsDontLikeYourNewPartnerWhat"},"NervouS":{"bf_titre":"Nervous","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3FVZIYL There\u2019s No Such Thing as a \u201cGood\u201d or \u201cBad\u201d Marriage]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/42gjkht A Married Man Needs Only 3 Things From His Wife]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/42jsSIT I Am Not The Caretaker of My Marriage]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4i743Wl 10 Guilty Pleasures For Couples]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/425v9bN The Man Behind How I Have It All]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4jgcuPW 14 Ways Having Kids Affects Your Relationship]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4jpgSMN Love Rewards the Brave]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4i6g1iQ The Book That Changed the Way I Look at Love]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4coeB2b When Divorce Runs in the Family]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4cmPMDP The Silence That Can Save Your Relationship]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4jntAeQ Is It Ever OK to Lie to Your Spouse?]]\n\nFinally \u2013 TC will be arriving back in town late tonight, after having been away all week \u2013 and I\u2019m nervous.\n\nAll signs seem to point towards things going well between us \u2013 we talked and e\u2019d regularly while he was away, and while he wasn\u2019t quite as romantic \/ effusive as he was in person, he did include a \u201cmiss you\u201d at least once. But there\u2019s a part of me that still feels that I should be prepared to expect the worst, that things might be different when we see each other again. Can\u2019t explain it. I\u2019m just afraid to get too excited about him.\n\nI\u2019m normally an optimist (too much so!), and generally don\u2019t worry about things until I\u2019m actually given reason to do so. It seems that having quite a bit of dating disappointment in the past two years has made me rather cynical \u2013 so unlike me. It\u2019s a strange feeling \u2013 I don\u2019t like it.\n\nI think it\u2019s not helping matters that I gained nearly a pound this week (didn\u2019t write about it because it was too depressing!)AND I\u2019m experiencing a wicked PMS. (hm, maybe the weight gain is because of that). In a nutshell, I\u2019m not feeling my most confident.\n\nI suppose the usual advice applies here \u2013 wait and see. TC and I have plans tomorrow night \u2013 wish me luck! 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I originally gave it up after being sick and found that it had an adverse effect on my sex drive. Then I went to only having one cup a day, but found that even that habitual cup was causing me to crash in the afternoon. Now that I don\u2019t have coffee during the week, my energy levels are way better. Of course, I think my diet plays a role in this as well, as I generally avoid carbs. Also, I tend to take a nap after lunch and have a cup of black tea after lunch. Still, I find that my sex drive isn\u2019t as intense  during the week. Then when the weekend comes, I indulge and have coffee in the mornings. It\u2019s easier to deal with the mid-day crash because I can just have a rest.\n\nWondering if anyone else has had similar experiences? In general, I favor not having the coffee habitually. It actually does its job well when I have it sparingly. 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And if I end up being kind of excited about a new possibility, he\u2019ll know I\u2019m not as guarded as I seem.\n\nIt breaks all the rules in more ways than one. I have never attempted to use the qualifier \u201ctoo\u201d so often when describing one person. Too young, too far away, too impossible\u2026 and yet. Last night for the first time in I can\u2019t even remember how long (except I can and the truth is even worse) I stayed up way too late talking on the phone just hoping not to hang up yet. And when we finally did, I may have seen him in my dreams.\n\nSo he asked what I would call him here and I said I didn\u2019t know. I still don\u2019t. Like I said, I\u2019m at an impasse.","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2023-04-15","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2023-04-15","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"IndecisioN","date_creation_fiche":"2025-04-15 17:46:27","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-04-15 17:46:27","user":"66.249.69.41","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222023-04-15\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222023-04-15\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022IndecisioN\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-04-15 17:46:27\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-04-15 17:46:27\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?IndecisioN"},"CoinDuFeu3":{"bf_titre":"Coin du feu","bf_description":"","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2025-04-11T10:00:00+02:00","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2025-04-11T12:00:00+02:00","bf_text":"visio","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"CoinDuFeu3","date_creation_fiche":"2025-02-14 12:37:13","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-02-14 12:37:13","user":"66.249.66.160","owner":"Helene","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222025-04-11T10:00:00+02:00\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222025-04-11T12:00:00+02:00\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022CoinDuFeu3\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-02-14 12:37:13\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-02-14 12:37:13\u0022 data-owner=\u0022Helene\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?CoinDuFeu3"},"CoinDuFeu5":{"bf_titre":"Coin du feu","bf_description":"","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2025-06-13T10:00:00+02:00","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2025-06-13T12:00:00+02:00","bf_text":"visio","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"CoinDuFeu5","date_creation_fiche":"2025-02-14 12:40:16","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-02-14 12:40:16","user":"66.249.76.4","owner":"Helene","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222025-06-13T10:00:00+02:00\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222025-06-13T12:00:00+02:00\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022CoinDuFeu5\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-02-14 12:40:16\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-02-14 12:40:16\u0022 data-owner=\u0022Helene\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?CoinDuFeu5"},"CoinDuFeu4":{"bf_titre":"Coin du feu","bf_description":"","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2025-05-16T10:00:00+02:00","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2025-05-16T12:00:00+02:00","bf_text":"visio","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"CoinDuFeu4","fichierfichier":"","date_creation_fiche":"2025-02-14 12:39:12","statut_fiche":"1","date_maj_fiche":"2025-02-17 11:09:33","user":"66.249.76.5","owner":"Helene","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222025-05-16T10:00:00+02:00\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222025-05-16T12:00:00+02:00\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022CoinDuFeu4\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-02-14 12:39:12\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-02-17 11:09:33\u0022 data-owner=\u0022Helene\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?CoinDuFeu4"},"TriggerPullingNonExistent":{"bf_titre":"Trigger Pulling = Non Existent","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/40wbtvB Why girls on dating websites don\u0027t know how to have a conversation]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3WwLjaJ Why \u201cwe need to talk\u201d should be happening in your relationship]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3CwEBL3 Living With The One You Love]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3CsYrH2 4 Ways To Be Really Rude While Instant Messaging]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3WxFee7 How Emo Updates Hurt Your Relationship]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/40znReq How Straightforwardness Got Him the Date]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4gihBO0 How to Keep Long-distance Relationships Alive]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3WwrLDw How to Find Love in 2025]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3E56ESx Is Religion Important When Dating?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4gfWn2V Keeping A Romantic Life As A Single Mom]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4htKojh 7 Sure-Fire Ways To Get Over A Relationship]]\n\nA long day at school\u2026 but the semester was is winding down.  As I\u2019m leaving campus, about to head home\u2026 I run into the Chinese Girl in the hallway.\n\nWe chat for a bit.  \u201dAre you about to leave?\u201d  She aks.\n\n\u201cYeah.\u201d\n\n\u201cOh\u2026 wait for me?\u201d\n\n\u201cAlright.\u201d   She goes and grabs her stuff and we walk out together.\n\nWhen we get outside the building I run into a couple of friends of mine who are laughing about a mistake they made in team project.  I laugh wit them and chat with them for a bit, the Chinese Girl just lingers around too.  Then, we head out\u2026\n\nWe start walking.  I\u2019m headed to my train, she\u2019s heading to hers\u2026 at a different station.\n\n\u201cNo.  Don\u2019t go to that station.  Come, get on my train with me.\u201d  I say\u2026 just to see if she will.\n\n\u201cUmmm\u2026. ok!\u201d   She agrees and comes with me.\n\nWe get on the train, talk a bit more.  I start to think about how I should push forward, but then I realize it\u2019s getting late and I still need to call my brother \u2013 it is his birthday, and I decide to do nothing.   When I get to my stop, I look at her and ask, \u201cyou going to be alright getting home safely?\u201d\n\n\u201cYeah\u2026\u201d\n\n\u201cOkay\u201d   I hug her, kiss her on the cheek and hop off the train.   I call my brother and wish him happy birthday.. but it\u2019s only a 10 min phone call max.  Then, I\u2019m home\u2026 by myself\u2026 with nothing really to do.\n\nWhy didn\u2019t I just push for it?  I could\u2019ve tried to invite her over.  I could\u2019ve suggested we grab a bottle of wine and chill for a bit.   Maybe she would\u2019ve gone for it, maybe she wouldn\u2019t have\u2026. but I couldn\u2019t help but to think I should\u2019ve at least tried.","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-01-24","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-01-24","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"TriggerPullingNonExistent","date_creation_fiche":"2025-01-24 10:39:20","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-01-24 10:39:20","user":"66.249.69.41","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-01-24\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-01-24\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022TriggerPullingNonExistent\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-01-24 10:39:20\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-01-24 10:39:20\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?TriggerPullingNonExistent"},"TheStruggleOfFindingGenuineConnectionsIn":{"bf_titre":"The Struggle of Finding Genuine Connections in a Hookup Culture","bf_description":"[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3QWSfe6 We\u2019re All Slutty For The Right Guy]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3QXZa6L Dear Men: This Is Why Loyalty Is So Important To Women]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3XLbF9B How Do You Avoid Dating a Liberal\/Conservative?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41EVtI7 Are You Looking For Fast Love Too?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3FhnSwB Should You Fake an Active Lifestyle for Love?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3Ffy1tE When a Relationship Feels Like a Secret Mission]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/41HLdPc Pushing Through It]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/4bIFWvv Embracing The Unexpected Path Of Singlehood]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3DzQ6SD Why Is It So Hard to Believe Someone Might Stay?]]\n[[https:\/\/bit.ly\/3XDyxI4 Am I Crazy Or Is He A Hot Mess?]]\n\n\nLet\u2019s get one thing straight: the purpose of sending one of these Venmo invoices is not to get the money back. While I believe dolts like this man are stupid to some degree, they can\u2019t be that stupid. These requests are essentially thinly-veiled attempts at extortion, as the person sending it (usually a man) know the woman won\u2019t pay, which in his mind gives him permission to stalk and harass her.  These stories aren\u2019t funny anymore, not after the nightmare experienced by this woman.  To summarize, a man filed a civil case in court to get his $20 back allegedly because the woman was texting during a date. Now, do you really believe that\u2019s the reason? Because I don\u2019t. I think this man-baby got his feelings hurt, so he decided he was going to make her pay, not with money, but with her reputation and safety.  It\u2019s time for news outlets and venues and fucking Venmo (whose brand is quickly becoming associated with this nonsense) to draw a hard line here. Enough. Yeah, sure, you might get some publicity out of it and your brand name might get some exposure, but at what cost?\n\nSee, men like this know they can\u2019t beat us up for rejecting them without going to jail (well, sometimes) so they go another more passive aggressive route. They think, \u201cI know, I\u2019ll threaten to publicly shame her. That\u2019ll teach her for turning me down.\u201d It\u2019s an act of revenge, pure and simple. For the folks in the cheap seats, let me remind you that a man seeking revenge never really ends in the woman\u2019s favor.\n\nNow that we\u2019ve covered that, let\u2019s address \u2013 AGAIN \u2013 that if you just sit there waiting for a man to pay that check, you\u2019re an asshole. I don\u2019t care what your Mom or your girlfriends told you about chivalry. Screw chivalry. You are not entitled to a free anything because you graced someone with your presence. So what if he chose the place? That means nothing. You met on Tinder, for fuck\u2019s sake. The chances of dates borne from a dating app like Tinder or Bumple turning into something substantive are pretty small and we all know it. Stop acting like you\u2019re Kate Middleton.\n\nAs for those of us who re-tweet and share stories like this, consider first publicly calling out news organizations and payment platforms like Venmo for enabling this misogynistic bullshit.\n\nMaybe I\u2019m just a sourpuss, but I\u2019m having a really hard time appreciating the new \u201cFeminist Frank\u201d meme, just like I had a hard time appreciating the \u201cFeminist Ryan Gosling\u201d meme.  I guess it boils down to this for me: It\u2019s a lot easier to say the right things and look like a feminist than it is to actually do the right things and be a feminist.\n","bf_date_debut_evenement":"2022-03-11","bf_date_fin_evenement":"2022-03-11","bf_text":"","id_typeannonce":"2","id_fiche":"TheStruggleOfFindingGenuineConnectionsIn","date_creation_fiche":"2025-03-11 17:30:07","statut_fiche":"1","fichierfichier":"","date_maj_fiche":"2025-03-11 17:30:07","user":"66.249.70.4","owner":"","html_data":"data-bf_date_debut_evenement=\u00222022-03-11\u0022 data-bf_date_fin_evenement=\u00222022-03-11\u0022 data-id_typeannonce=\u00222\u0022 data-id_fiche=\u0022TheStruggleOfFindingGenuineConnectionsIn\u0022 data-date_creation_fiche=\u00222025-03-11 17:30:07\u0022 data-statut_fiche=\u00221\u0022 data-date_maj_fiche=\u00222025-03-11 17:30:07\u0022 ","url":"https:\/\/le-parapluie.fr\/?TheStruggleOfFindingGenuineConnectionsIn"},"OnlineDatingVirgin":{"bf_titre":"Online Dating Virgin ","bf_description":"\u0022\u0022\u003Ccenter\u003E\u0022\u0022=====10 Tips for Dating Safely on the Internet=====\u0022\u0022\u003C\/center\u003E\u0022\u0022\n{{attach file=\u00221606135301612x612.jpg\u0022 desc=\u0022\u0022 size=\u0022big\u0022 class=\u0022center\u0022 caption=\u0022image 1606135301612x612.jpg (21.3kB)\u0022 nofullimagelink=\u00221\u0022}}\n\nInternet dating was once considered a refuge for the socially inept and sadly desperate, advertising and searching for Mr. or Mrs. \u201dRight\u201d (or Mr. or Mrs. \u201dRight Now\u201d). But times have changed. Internet dating has fast become a way of life for single adults - and the numbers are staggering! It has also created a massive shift in relationships - speeding them up and intensifying them. And along with offering more and different opportunities than real-time love, it brings a totally different set of problems.\n\nThe three A\u2019s: Good News and Bad News:\n====ACCESS====\n**Good News**: It\u0027s immediate and it\u0027s in 24\/7, and while in real-time dating you could never date 30 people in one night -- with online dating you can\n\n\u0022\u0022\u003Ccenter\u003E\u0022\u0022**Sponsored Ads** | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-States-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026amp;page=5 Find American Girlfriends]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/United-Kingdom-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026amp;page=5 Meet British Girlfriend]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/France-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026amp;page=5 French Single Girlfriend]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/Australia-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026amp;page=5 Dating Australian Girlfriends]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/Spain-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026amp;page=5 Spanish Girlfriend Near You]] | [[https:\/\/www.loveawake.com\/free-online-dating\/Italy-dating-service.html?gender=female\u0026amp;page=5 Single Female Friend From Italy]]\u0022\u0022\u003C\/center\u003E\u0022\u0022\nBad News: You may think you\u0027re dating someone special, and he or she may be dating 30 people at the same time \n====AFFORDABILITY ====\n**Good News**: Gone are the days of laying out tons of cash to learn the basics about someone. For less than $25 a month you can meet hundreds (if not thousands) of potential dates. In fact, most sites offer either a trial free membership to test out the service and even, limited free membership ongoing. Check out these two hysterically funny dating sites, Dating Republicans and Dating Democrats.  \n**Bad News**: There is none. This is a cost efficient way to meet people, and weed them out without having to meet them and spend money on dates, clothes or just as importantly, wasting time.\n====ANONYMITY====\n**Good News**: Cyber connecting feels safe because you\u2019re behind a computer screen and it is largely nameless, allowing you to be as open or closed as you like.\n\n**Bad News**: Some people are dishonest. Cyber connecting feels safe because you\u2019re behind a computer screen and it is largely nameless, allowing you to be as open or closed as you like. Remember, this works both ways. \n\nBOTTOMLINE  There\u2019s no longer one type who\u2019s logging on...we all are. But with all of the thousands of people clicking their way to love it\u2019s tougher - and more important than ever to really know how to navigate all the profiles out there...and how to not only make your own profile stand above the rest, but to be selective, smart and safe.\n\n===Ten Commandments of Dating Safely on the Internet:===\n\n**1. Thou shall not play games.** Searching for a mate or a significant other is serious business. Treat others honestly and fairly. Remember the Golden Rule, \u201dTreat others as you would like to be treated.\u201d You can be playful, but not harmful. Leading people on or giving them false interest can get you into trouble. Some websites have chat rooms or message boards and you can get a reputation as a tease or dishonest person. If someone doesn\u2019t meet your expectations or it just doesn\u2019t work out, let the situation go and move on. Keep from trying to seek some \u201drevenge\u201d or \u201dgetting even.\u201d\n\n**2. Thou shall be creative**, BUT... Everyone wants to look appealing in his or her profile, but don\u2019t over do it. Being too provocative or suggestive can attract the wrong people. Don\u2019t be too revealing. Give your prospective dates something to wonder about. Be friendly and upbeat and show your positive traits, but don\u2019t be overtly sexual, or use double meanings to sell yourself, it could lead to trouble if you meet.\n3. Thou shall go slowly. Everyone who is searching, is anxious to find someone, however, keep things in perspective and do not jump at everyone who shows interest. Set standards and try to stay with them. Don\u2019t compromise; there are lots of people out there.\n\n**4. Thou shall be informed.** Make sure you ask pertinent questions of your prospective date. Don\u2019t be afraid to do a little research to check out the person before you set a meeting. Ask about where they went to school, where they work, and where they lived. Never assume anything; it is even ok to ask how long they have been single or whether or not they\u0027ve been married and for how long. They may lie, but give them the opportunity to answer the questions truthfully.\n\n**5. Thou shall protect yourself.** Do not reveal too much information about your personal life in your profile. If you have kids, especially small children, it is wise not to include them in photographs that you post with your profile. Do not reveal your last name until you are sure this is someone you want to get to know. Communicate through the dating service website initially, until you feel comfortable enough to give out your own personal e-mail. Once you have established a mutual \u201dconnection\u201d set up a phone call. Hearing a person\u0027s voice and the way they express themselves can be very revealing. Then if that generates interest you can plan the all-important first date. (You can check out my book, 50 First Dates for some great ideas!) Viewing profiles is completely free. Earn money from profile videos. The adult chat site [[https:\/\/emeraldchat.fr\/ Emerald Chat]] features video chat. Men can chat with female models.\n\n**6. Thou shall be honest above all else.** Never over overstate your background or qualifications, it can come back to haunt you. You want to start a new relationship on solid ground. If you don\u2019t want to reveal every detail about yourself at this time, that\u2019s fine, but don\u2019t exaggerate or lie about things. Just as you should be honest, expect the same from your date. Speaking of which, if they are evasive or seem to be holding back on questions you have, don\u2019t be afraid to push a little for more satisfying answers.\n\n**7. Thou shall be smart.** Remember the conversations that you have shared with your potential date. If there are contradictory stories or if your potential date tells you things that don\u2019t make sense, be prepared to end things.\n\n**8. Thou shall not put oneself at risk.** When planning the first meeting, choose a public or popular place. Don\u2019t isolate yourself. Provide your own transportation or have a friend take you to the meeting place and pick you up.\n\nMake sure you let someone know about your date and where and when you are meeting.\n\nMake sure you remain in control of your senses. Don\u2019t do anything that could impair your decision making process, like drinking too much.\n\n**9. Thou shall trust thy own instincts.**  Even though you might be nervous about meeting someone for the first time, if you should have serious doubts, be prepared to call the date off or if you are on the date, don\u2019t be afraid to excuse yourself and end the date. Especially, if the facts that he or she is telling you on the date start to not add up, or if your date presents an image that is negative and frightening.\n\n**10 . Thou shall not reveal too much.** Just as if you were meeting someone for the first time in a bar, at work, at school, or in any social setting, you probably would not reveal everything about yourself all at once. While on the Internet, you have the element of anonymity for as long as you need it. Reveal information as the situation dictates, but take things at a reasonable pace. Do not give out too much personal information (for instance your address) and do not post photos of your children - especially if you are a single mom. It is very easy to get caught up in a fantasy, make sure that you separate wishful dreams from reality.\n\nSources\n\n1. [[https:\/\/training.coursekey.com\/eportfolios\/2543\/Home\/Best_Dating_Websites_to_Find_a_Gay_Sugar_Daddy https:\/\/training.coursekey.com\/eportfolios\/2543\/Home\/Best_Dating_Websites_to_Find_a_Gay_Sugar_Daddy]]\n2. 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